Lessons in leadership

Today I write from my leadership standpoint. I run two organizations that are at times overwhelming. As such, I’ve made a deliberate decision to swim through the murky waters until I reach the shore- then take a well deserved bath.

Today, I will not be defeated!

“You may encounter many defeats but you must not be defeated”- Maya Angelou

As a leader (on a personal note):

Some say I have lived a full life- one that is to be envied. I say, ‘I’ve accomplished much and I’ve failed miserably at many things’. I joke with my husband/ friend and say, ‘They just don’t know!’ We laugh.

What I do know:

  1. I somehow keep rising to the occasion of the challenge
  2. I know defeat is temporary
  3. I know happiness is not sustainable but JOY is
  4. I know happiness is an amazing rainbow- if you are fortunate to catch and seize the ‘happiness is’ moments
  5. Failure leads to accomplished lives “Success and Service”
  6. I am grateful for both my accomplishments and my failures

Today, I am overwhelmed and a bit lonely in my work. That is what Leaders mean when they say,  “It’s lonely at the top”.

Leadership is a journey that only us crack-pots venture into.  The term ‘crack-pot’ is meant to be interpreted as an endearing term that only visionaries and those who are offered an explanation truly understand. It is not meant to be offensive or cunning in an way.

Some great characteristics of Leaders:

  1. You go where others dare not enter
  2. You take on more risk because there is a dire need or a significant problem to be solved
  3. You become thick skinned and spine straight
  4. You somehow find in your loneliness, there is Joy and Peace
  5. You inspire others to Dream and to become accomplished in their gift(s)

As a leader you’ll come to understand and realize that stagnation will never Grow anything and YOU must challenge yourself and others around you (near and far) to dream in color, be innovative and to become positive change agents.

So today choose to be a Leader that is:

  • Chocked full of IDEAS
  • Able to Solve Problems
  • Inclusive
  • Kind – (kindness is not synonymous with weakness)

In doing so, the World will be better and individuals will come into their true Growth Opportunities (and perhaps seize them). There is a certain Joy and Peace to that extent. That J&P is almost ethereal and surreal to the average individuals’ comprehension and that’s okay;)

Cheers to your journey~ Go and be Great!

Never be Defeated.

With Love,


Health is vital to success.

Recently, it was reported that three things are vitally important to our health and I believe can attribute to great success in some challenging endeavors.

They are:

  1. Laugh often- Listen, I get really silly sometimes (heck-I crack myself up sometimes, which may not be good). It (laughter) just makes life easier for me. I don’t take me or others too serious. When my family shouts, “Mom!” or “Bridgette!” yet they have tears in their eyes from laughing…I keep going. They ask me- when they are expecting guests at our home- “Mom” or “Bridgette” don’t be all serious. This means they want me to laugh and make others laugh. I guess this is why so may travel through our doors, they feel at home and know Laughter Abounds- along with some good food!

Laughter might not really be the best medicine. But it’s got a long list of amazing benefits for your physical and emotional health.

For instance, it also causes your brain and nervous system to release a flood of endorphins — powerful opioid-like hormones that can help relieve depression and stress, boost your immune system, and provide pain relief. –you will not leave my presence “depressed” No Way! Not if you’re a friend of mine.

But researchers at the University of Maryland discovered something else remarkable: hearty laughter expands your blood vessels and provides heart benefits similar to those you’d get from aerobic exercise or statin drugs.1

As Dr. Michael Miller, the lead researcher, told an American Heart Association conference:

“We know that exercising, not smoking, and eating foods low in saturated fat will reduce the risk of heart disease. Perhaps regular, hearty laughter should be added to the list.”
2.   Sing a few songs (who cares if your not great at it!)- I stink at singing, but I do it anyway…even when people are watching! I just happen to like putting melody with words. It’s that Creative in me- “Oh Well”- Literally!  Lol

” I love to sing — especially in my car. Now, I’m not saying I’m good, but I have to admit, it really makes me feel good.

And there’s a reason for that:

Singing stimulates the release of feel-good hormones like endorphins and oxytocin, and reduces cortisol (the ‘stress’ hormone) — which gives you an immediate overall sense of well-being.

And those endorphins can also help you find some relief from common aches and pains. (TIP: Put on some of your favorite music and then sing along with it for a half hour or so.)”- Dr. Smith

3.  Spend time with loved ones (can be friends who love on you and you them- as some families are dysfunctional – and not in a good loving way- it’s OK!) as much as you can

… ” You see, being in a safe and familiar setting helps lower your blood pressure, which is good for your heart.

And while you’re enjoying this quality family time, grab as many hugs as you can…

Because hugging someone you care about causes your brain to release oxytocin, the ‘love hormone.’ And in addition to making you feel a stronger emotional closeness, oxytocin also helps lower your blood pressure, stress, and anxiety levels — which contribute to a healthier heart.

Well, as you can see, sometimes you can get big rewards with just a little effort. And the combined benefits you get by making all these tips part of your daily routine could add years to your life.

So if you don’t already do all three of these simple things every day, I want you to start — today.

And if you ARE doing them every day — keep up the good work! I’m proud of you!

For your health,

Cary Nelson, MD
Director of Science & Nutrition”

Told you so… Live, Love Laugh! How Healthy it is!

and you may become more successful at various endeavors overall…Go ahead,try it. It costs nothing 😉

Cheers my friends, Cheers!